To The Hopeful Young Bride From Wisconsin
You don’t know me yet, and we won’t meet for another three decades or so, but I know when we finally meet, we will get along just fine.
Today may seem like any other day. Right now, you are probably enjoying a good book over freshly brewed coffee, however, today is no ordinary day. Today, that young aspiring first year resident you have been seeing will pop the question. He will ask you to marry him. You will be a little caught off guard, you will be surprised, you will feel excited and nervous at the same time, but you will say Yes!
As you prepare for marriage, many things will rattle through your mind. Is this really the Lord’s plan for you? How bad could residency be? What does it look like to be a godly wife?
To the hopeful young bride from Wisconsin, I am here to tell you that the Lord has quite the adventure prepared for you. It will not be easy, in fact there will be many challenges waiting for you, but He is and will always be near you.
I don’t mean to scare you, but it will be tough. Residency will take your husband away for 5 long years. Even when he finishes, his work schedule will continue to require you to be flexible. There will be countless nights you will be sleeping alone and there will be dinners half eaten because he may get called to go to the hospital. There will be tears, there will be unmet expectations, but dear hopeful young wife from Wisconsin, the Lord is faithful and He will bring you much comfort and peace. The Lord will use the hope that you have in mighty ways. Many who do not know our Lord Jesus Christ will hear of His Love through you.
Dear hopeful young bride from Wisconsin, did you know you will become a mommy too? Yes thats right! You don’t know this yet, but the Lord will use you to bring life to four beautiful children into this world. You will have two strong sons and two lovely daughters. How I wish I could baby sit for you! Again, it’s not going to be easy. Your first son will barely see his father. You will have to figure out and celebrate many milestones by yourself. There will be days you are exhausted, juggling four adorable, but rambunctious kids alone into the night. There will be moments you question if you are being a good wife and mom. You will question yourself, you will feel like you have nothing else to give, and you might even feel like a failure… but dear hopeful young bride from Wisconsin, the Lord is near, the Lord is holding you, the Lord loves you so much, and the Lord is pleased with you. You are not going to be a failure.
Dear bride, I promise you, the Lord will bring you through the tough seasons and continue to sustain you in the seasons to come. I promise you will see your husband more, he will be able to come home at night, and the Lord will give him a job. In a few years you will become a hopeful young mom in Southern California, discipling her children and praying for them into their adulthood. These four beautiful children will one day rise up and call you blessed. (Proverbs 31:29) You will see the fruits of your labor and look back and see the Lord’s faithfulness during those tough lonely times.
Dear hopeful young bride from Wisconsin, we will meet someday. It won’t be for a while, but that day will come. Your second son whom you prayed for since he was a sweet little boy, will actually be the one to introduce us. We will meet over dessert, and we will hit it off. We will be friends, you will be one of my role models, your son will ask you what you think of me ,and believe it or not, we will be family one day.
Dear hopeful young bride from Wisconsin, your son will eventually follow in your husband’s footsteps and his hopeful young bride will be coming to you for advice and counsel because you would have been through it all.
His hopeful young bride will be me.
Until then, I leave you with this verse. Through the good and the bad, ” Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and he will make straight your path.” ( Proverbs 3:5-6)
Much Love from your future daughter in-law,