Sincerely Wife of a Traveling Husband: Jenny’s Story
I have decided to expand these interview series to include input and encouragements from wives married to husbands who work irregular/unconventional hours or jobs that require them to be away from home often. I hope expanding this series, will invite more women to be able to connect and uplift each other up through their experiences and struggles.
To kick off this new expansion, we have Jenny sharing her story. She and her husband Davy are one of the chillest people I know, and super fun to hangout with. I love her genuineness and her bubbly personality. I am super thankful she agreed to start off this interview series 🙂
Q. Please share a little bit about yourself and your husband.
Jenny: My name is Jenny and my husband Davy and I have been married for 2.5 years. We met at church serving while together on the snack team. (we both love food). I am an optometrist and Davy works as a pharmaceutical engineer. In our free time we like to eat ( i.e. cook, try new restaurants, eat korean bbq), travel, hike, and go fishing. Davy is the optimist and mostly in good spirits, I’m the pessimist and more of the emotional one. He likes to take risks, and I like to choose the familiar and safe. By God’s grace, we balance each other well.
Q. What parts of your husband’s job requires him to travel or be away from home for long period at a time?
Jenny: Davy works for a pharmaceutical consulting company so he has many different clients both in the US and abroad. Sometimes these international companies require him to travel to the their worksite and give presentations, perform training workshops, or other tasks. (I’m still not sure exactly what he does )
Q. What are some of your struggles with a husband who travels frequently or is gone often?
Jenny: I’m sure the struggles are not as hard other wives who have children. In fact, I don’t have to cook as often, I can meet with my family or friends more, and can be a lot more spontaneous. The hardest part is missing Davy and the companionship we have (which I often take for granted). It’s hard the first couple of nights sleeping alone because after marriage, I sleep the best when he’s next to me. It was a real shock in the beginning when he left for a long business trip. I remember driving home and bursting into tears because I missed him so much. These days, I’m just extra clingy the day before he leaves.
Q. How do you find joy in your circumstances?
Jenny: I find joy in all circumstances by focusing on the positive aspects of the situation and being thankful. I think to myself that I should appreciate the fact that my husband has job where he’s skilled enough to be needed internationally. I’ve also come to realize that the times he is gone, I can have more solitude with God. This is very much needed to provide spiritual rejuvenation and refreshment for my soul. I can also meet and catch up with friends and sisters at church. My sister also comes over and spends the night and we have sister time eating, hanging out, or watching korean dramas together. (Isn’t she the best ??)
Q. What do you usually do to keep busy?
Jenny: As stated above, I meet and catch up with friends or family more. I also try to exercise a lot more than usual. I also spend time reading, praying and meditating.
Q. How has your faith played a role in your specific situation?
Jenny: Nowadays when Davy travels (especially to Europe), I become more anxious with thoughts of possible terrorist attacks and safety. I worry about his safety while he’s traveling via plane, train or taxi. My anxiety is rooted in worry and fear that I may lose him. As marriage is two becoming one, I’ve come to really depend on him a lot. However, I’ve found comfort in the fact that come what may, God is sovereign and loving. He is the Giver, and my husband is a gift. Through prayer I can depend on and worship the One who is truly all powerful, all knowing, and wise. And when Davy finally comes back home, I can be glad and thankful to God for His providence and appreciate my husband a little bit more.