More Than A Change of Clothes: Chapter 4
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The desire to look beautiful, cute, elegant, attractive etc. is not a sin. However, could there be times when this desire unconsciously or consciously takes a detour and mixes with sinful attitudes? This is the question that chapter 4 addresses.
As women we can “ play up our best features and cover up the ones we like less. We also have more options for clothing than the guys have. That is good news. The bad news, though is that we can use those freedoms in a sexually provocative way that results in sin against God and the men in our life.”(39).
This concept of modesty vs. immodest is not something new. It was addressed many times in the bible. We can trace examples of modesty through a few examples recorded in the Old Testament. It is interesting that modesty and true beauty is described with a woman’s character and attitude.
Example 1: Proverbs 31 Woman. This passage addresses how this woman chooses to dress herself. However, the description goes beyond an outward description.
“ She girds ( dresses) herself with strength, and makes her arms strong.” – Proverbs 31:25
“ Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future.” – Proverbs 31:25)
There are several other descriptions of this remarkable woman, but the most telling on of all is that she fears the LORD. That is her heart.
Example 2: Sarah- A Holy Woman Who Hoped in God
We know from scripture, that Sarah was a physically beautiful woman. However her beauty is highlighted through her character by the Apostle Peter. “ For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.” – 1 Peter 3:5-6
“ Sarah was beautiful outwardly and inwardly. We could describe it as her heart beauty. Ultimately she believed God and is described as holy women who hoped in God. Her adornment was her godly submission to her husband and her hope in God”(41).
The next section of the book address The Godly Motive behind Modesty
Remember how we keep reminding ourselves that you can dress modestly, but have a completely immodest heart? Well, hold onto that thought!
“ Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30.
This verses makes a contrast between Charm/Beauty with a woman who fears the LORD.
Beauty can be easily understood hear as outward appearance. We all know the youthful beauty of a woman will inevitably fade with time. But what is charm? And why is Charm deceitful?
Going back to dressing modestly, but having an immodest heart. I believe “Charm” addresses one’s inward attitude and motivation for doing something. One can dress a certain way to garner applause and praise, but that’s all she is going for. Honoring God is not at the forefront of her heart.
“ The beautiful charmer might get temporary applause, but what happens when the beauty fades or someone more beautiful wanders by? Any attention she draws is temporary and will fade as her external beauty and charm diminish”(43).
What God praises is a woman who fears the Lord. “ True satisfaction comes from having a right relationship with God in which you draw close to Him in the fear of God”(43).
“ It isn’t the kind of fear that makes you want to run and hide from Him. This fear of God brings us closer to Him. Our relationship with God will then bring profound and significant praise that lasts for eternity”(43).
“ Modesty shows that you are someone under the authority of God, someone who fears Him. Rather than showing that you disbelieve God by focusing on charm and beauty, you choose to demonstrate your belief in God by being modest”(44).
Again, modesty/immodesty start as attitudes of the heart. Both results in outward manifestations, but the root of what is outwardly shown, ultimately springs from our heart condition.
“ The ultimate cure to immodestly is found in Proverbs 31:30- Fear the Lord. Grow in your knowledge of God in every way possible. Every time you open God’s Word, focus on what it teaches about the character of God. The more accurate your view of God, the more accurately you will see your own sin. Hopefully the more accurately you see your sin, the more you will be motivated to truly repent before our awesome God!”(48).
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